Relationships are a challenging and demanding area of our lives, replete with rewards, benefits, struggles and wonderous moments and awful disasters. It is astonishing to think that we leap into them, maybe settle into marriages and make life changing decisions without any or very little guidance in what we are doing.
Do we ever sit back to think what it is that makes a relationship work, what makes a relationship healthy, what enables some couples to live their whole lives together and for others not to be able to? Why do we marry and what did we want from marriage? What do we do in the face of problems, what and how do we react?
The nature of relationship is of course complex. Two worlds come together with great hope, feeling, love, passion and desire. But we also move through stages with life. Romance drops off, children come, jobs and careers dominate etc etc.
It is a wonder that they can work out at all.
The quality of a relationship can often be enhanced via the process of improved communication and understanding and the enemy to understanding someone else is familiarity and assumption.
Familiarity and assumption invade relationships through the medium of time and slowly cement in place patterns of interrelationship that are not in any way related to the person one once knew, but related to the person one has an image of inside of ones own mind.